Claim Your Own Mental Fitness: Manage Your Mind to Overcome Addiction, Anxiety, Anger, Grief, Trauma & Depression and Form Positive Relationships by Scovill Ph.D. Rea Anne

Author:Scovill Ph.D., Rea Anne [Scovill Ph.D., Rea Anne]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2013-11-05T16:00:00+00:00

When you consider these eight areas, you’ll find that attention to all of them over several years is required to prevent conditions leading to depression, trauma or anxiety. Many of these areas allow you to find people who will become your friends and supporters. Fortunately most activities address goals in several categories. For example, planting a local garden gives you a chance to improve your community and connect with new friends for you and your family. Through them you could learn a healthy new recipe and find a buddy to walk with. You might learn about a friendly church or a good therapist for yourself or your ADHD third-grade son. You could even get a lead on a new job. You’ll feel happier and have more energy to keep growing with all this friendly input right in your neighborhood.

Define your short- and long-term goals in each area once or twice a year to keep on track with growing your competence in all eight areas. You’ll notice that you have lots of short-term goals in some areas and few or none in others. This is appropriate, since each stage of your Adult life offers a different set of challenges. Gail Sheehy describes these stages with examples of people going through them in many walks of life. 5 Although you can only focus on a few goal areas at a time, it’s best for your long-term fulfillment to try to set even a small goal for each area. Experiment to find what short steps are realistic for you. Gradually you’ll find activities that allow you to develop all eight areas with less confusion.

As you work at this, you’ll discover new ways of thinking about your future and surprise yourself with ideas for more meaningful goals. You’re beginning the relationship work that will be further explored in Part III . As you master the principles for your own mental fitness, you become stronger within yourself and ready for healthy relationships. You can learn to stop punishing others and expecting them to change as you learn to stop punishing yourself. Learn to do unto yourself as you would do unto others as you monitor with your Adult. You can learn to guide others effectively as you learn to guide yourself. You can refine your understanding of your beliefs as you apply them with others, honing them in the human cauldron.

Get Support to Keep Your Adult in Charge

Forty years ago when I hit my bottom (as the AA people would say), I had to discover, mostly on my own, the lessons in this book to climb out of it. It’s good to know that now there are guidelines from science to help us get started when wisdom seems unavailable. As the references included here indicate, there are many studies that show how new techniques can help resolve anxiety and depression. The safest belief tree you can climb when you’re at your bottom is that of a well-grounded therapist. Get a referral from someone reliable. Therapists are taught to help you find your own guiding beliefs, not confuse you with their own.

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